Hi & welcome to my blog!! I hope you find it enjoyable or even helpful, wherever you are in your journey 💫
My name is Jacqui, I’m a recently admitted lawyer (June 2019) and I live in Brisbane, Australia ✨
I am yet to find where I fit within the legal profession. I have a lot of different areas of Law that I am interested in so I’m searching to find my perfect fit 💫
I was only diagnosed with ADHD after finishing my degree in 2017. I have come a long way and found that my diagnosis has allowed me to overcome the things that held me back in the past 💫
I hope that you can overcome your obstacles too and live a happier and more accepting life. We all have a story and by sharing them we can make a difference 💫
After years of study and lots of ups and downs, I’ve finally made it. I was admitted to the Supreme Court on Monday 3rd June 2019 💫
I can now call myself a lawyer and not a law graduate. It still doesn’t seem real and I’m not sure how long it will take until I believe it 💫
Most of my life I was told that I couldn’t do it and that I wouldn’t become a lawyer but I kept on going 💫
It’s hard to be proud of myself because I spent most of my childhood being ridiculed and put down. I’ve learnt to dismiss the good things as nothing when I should be proud and feel good about them 💫
So after years of hard work I have finally finished one of my biggest goals but it just doesn’t feel like enough 💫
I am relieved and glad that its over but I know how much further I have to go. It almost feels like I’ve just finished another simple task, like its another day 💫
Learning to be proud of yourself and to feel good about yourself isn’t easy. Especially when you’re so used to feeling the opposite way and never feeling good enough 💫
All I know is that I’m ready for the next chapter of my life and all the adventures, challenges and growth that comes with it. I’m hoping that along the way I get a little bit better at recognising my achievements💫
So today I sat down and actually went through all of my ‘sticky notes’ that I had saved up over the course of my placement ✨
I basically scrunched up each one as I had no use for it and placed it in a glass jar, because….
1; it looked awesome and colourful which is the theme I was going for with my desk and basically my life.
and,
2; I wanted to be able to go through them at the end and be reminded of all the things I’d accomplished.
I find it hard to recognise the good things I’ve done or how much progress I’ve made so this was a perfect way to help me realise that I had actually achieved a lot more then I thought 💫
Boy was it a potluck of tasks! ✨
Here are some of the subject matters I uncovered:
Appointment reminders for client interviews and notes on things they had to bring in.
File updates/ things I was waiting for to progress further with the file.
Information I had to obtain from clients to finish forms/applications.
Research tasks given by my supervisor (Hello flash backs of the Royal Commission and Parliament TV)
A lot of stickies I used to keep track of the different exhibits when organising briefs.
Notes on forms I needed to be checked and signed off by my supervisors.
Special conditions for leases (yes this was on a sticky note!)
Expenses and income figures (debt recovery life)
Access to superannuation/ letters and forms.
Court room number and building level (just in case I forgot where to meet the solicitors)
Authorisation forms.
Updates on SPER applications.
A random phone number (I have no idea who it belongs to).
A bunch of figures I had to calculate to get the total value of a client’s goods (for a letter of demand).
Accommodation options for prisoners on release.
List of questions to ask a client who’s car was impounded.
A contact number for a job opportunity.
List of items that need to be copied for a client.
Note to reschedule a clients appointment.
List of lease clauses (all on one sticky!).
Letter requesting explanation for prison conditions.
Appointment to take instructions for a will.
Contact police to request documents.
That just touches on the surface of the tasks and subjects I focused on during my placement. I think the brilliance of it is that I got to learn a lot of different things and was never focused on one area of law 💫
My favourite part of my placement was going to trial on my second last week. Being able to watch seasoned barristers present their case so well was inspiring. The Barrister I was shadowing was for the defence and all I can say is: total advocacy goals!! 💫
This experience reminded me of why I studied Law and why I want to be a part of the legal profession. I hope that one day I get the opportunity to stand up in court, uphold the law and be able to grab the attention of everyone as well as she did 💫
The one thing I’ve taken away from my overall experience and my reflection today is that I have learnt so much and I have also grown so much. At times I was out of my comfort zone and it was scary, but I soldiered through 💫
My experience has built up my confidence and my ability to ask for help and explanations. I have learnt so much from other lawyers who were so kind and generous to show me the ropes and offer support when needed 💫
But most importantly, I’m starting to accept compliments and praise from others. I have always had issues with accepting compliments, and believing them. I am never sure whether what people are saying is true or if they are just trying to be nice 💫
People can say ‘good job’, ‘well done’ or ‘thank you for all your hard work’ and I still feel inadequate. I still feel like I haven’t done enough or my work could be better and I haven’t made a good impression. I know that I am critical of myself, but the opposite with others 💫
On my last day of placement everyone thanked me and said I had really helped them and shown a lot of enthusiasm and dedication. I felt awkward and almost like it wasn’t real, like they were just being nice. It wasn’t until I got a call two days after my placement from the HR manager, offering me a position, that I realised maybe they were telling the truth 💫
Looking back at all that I have done has made me understand that I have made a difference, I have done a lot and I am doing a good job. I was offered a position that was newly created because of my hard work and assistance to a solicitor who really needed it. She had been pushing for help and for me to be the one to help her, as I had been doing throughout my placement 💫
This solicitor wasn’t even part of my team but I noticed how stressed she was and how much workload she had. I took time to do whatever I could to help her because it upset me seeing her like this. I learnt so much from her and got invited to tag along to trial with her as a result 💫
So as much as I can feel like I haven’t done enough, when I look at the evidence it doesn’t reflect this view. I have helped a lot of solicitors with a lot of different things and I know that I do things efficiently. I have been told that I am a task master and I know that I am driven to finish things once I start them. I have been told that I’ve done well so many times and I need to listen and believe what people say to me 💫
I have helped a lot of people by just being there and listening, and offering my help in anyway I can. I know that I am kind, and that I always want to help others. This is who I am and its one of my biggest strengths 💫
So I just want to say, be kind and try to help others out because it can make a massive difference to their lives, their day and their happiness. Helping others can also be a great way to learn new things and develop your social skills, which are just as important 💫
Never underestimate your worth and your abilities, and learn to listen when others tell you how amazing you are because it is the truth. You’re doing great so keep going ✨
I can’t remember much of my childhood to be completely honest. I’m pretty sure it has something to do with my ADHD and working memory but also partly to do with my subconscious brain just blocking things out 💫
Whats with this outfit though?! 🤦🏽♀️
I know that I am an emotional person but I tend to internalise it and therefore no one seems to see this emotional side. I feel things very deeply and I am very compassionate (sometimes even too compassionate). The problem is that I don’t allow myself to show this vulnerability 💫
Rockin the crazy prints since 1992 🤞🏽
Thats just how I can always remember myself being. There were times where I would break down in tears, usually after being frustrated and built up with anger but most of the time I would hide away when I felt these emotions💫
Baby Jacqui was good at showing emotions ☺️
Having ADHD has had an emotional impact on my self esteem. Being told to always slow down, be patient, be quiet, stop talking and to concentrate all the time damages your self esteem over time. I have always felt different and not enough because I couldn’t focus or stick to things like ‘everyone else’ could 💫
Irish dancing. Another interest that I got bored of after a few weeks 🤷🏽♀️
I remember being separated from all the other kids in class because I was always talking and distracting others. I had to sit at the back of the classroom behind a metal pole by myself a lot of the time. I was seen as ‘bad’ and as ‘acting out’ and punished for doing so. I wish that my teachers could have discovered my condition and helped me find ways to combat these difficulties 💫
Innocent 😇
I remember being told I was a failure by one of my teachers in grade 8 and told that I would never amount to anything. I also had a teacher tell me that I would never be able to do Law. Looking back now I can see that had a major effect on my self esteem and fed my fear of failure 💫
2 kool 4 skool 😎
Uni was not easy. Dealing with my fear of failure really set me back. But I made it out and even though I was told I wouldn’t be capable of it, I have finished my degree. I am so close to being a ‘lawyer’ and I can proudly say that I proved a lot of people wrong 💫
My love of food has always been strong #woglife 🍩
It has taken me the past 2 years to accept my diagnosis and I’m starting to learn how my brain works and how to use it to my advantage. I am still trying to overcome the emotional damage caused from not recognising this condition for so long and feeling worthless 💫
Not happy. Tbh it was probably the hat 😒
I have come a long way and its taken a lot of hard work, sleepless nights and determination to get here. All I know is that there is only going upwards from here. Never give up and most importantly believe in yourself because you’ve got this! 💫